Focus on observing…when improving current relationships.
♡ TIP 2 - Observing helps you discern how to best serve them - observe their thoughts, feelings, actions, and beliefs.
- Observe: What are their greatest needs?
- Observe: How can your relationship help meet their needs?
- Observe: What common needs do you both have?
- Observe: What conflicts between your needs will love have to overcome?
- Observe: How does your relationship fit into their story?
√√ Double-Check: If you are not observing, you will not know their true needs to love...
♡ Application Examples: (Share your life-application examples with us by using the Contact Form.)
- Observing at Work: Can you “list” your boss’s needs (or employee’s needs) by what you observe?
- Observing Family: What are the “real” issues that are affecting your family members?
- Observing at School: Can you figure out how to balance school demands with life demands?
- Observing Friends: Do you know what needs are similar and/or in conflict with your friend?
- Observing Yourself: Have you learned to separate true needs that must be met from your wants?
You can use TIP 2 when you have trouble communicating, building better relationships, etc. with your boyfriend, girlfriend, family, mother, father, mom, dad, sister, brother, teenager, peer, sibling, parent, boss, coworker, employee, pastor, neighbor, friend, enemy, partner, significant other, yourself, God, your Creator, when rejected, when you feel hopeless, confused, denied, rejected, lost, stuck, confused, defeated, mistreated, misunderstood, angry, depressed, lost, or any other way and want ideas to do something positive, constructive, healing, helpful, restorative (restore or restoring), and or hopeful. When you have feelings of fighting, feeling lonely, considering retribution, getting even, being harmful, mean, ending communication, leaving a relationship, seeking revenge, harming, or other dysfunctional ideas, review the tips for help, and then consider getting counsel or other resources to help you in "loving and being loved".