Blue Flower

 STEP TWO in "Building your life around love."

Loving displays value through OBSERVING needs.

 VISUAL REMINDER:  Your second finger can remind you to OBSERVE.  First finger 2 Observe


Lve discerns needs …


Am I discerning what “I am hearing” with what “I am seeing”? 

Am I learning about their current and future needs? 

Am I discerning what they “really need” from what their “wants” seem to be?

Am I refraining from judging, and am I focusing upon seeing their unique value?


• Applying OBSERVING 24-7 Exercise   

Step  Identify someone you want to love better. Consider home, work, school, church, community, and any other setting.

Step Rate your performance in how well you OBSERVE. Make notes to support your number.

10 = best (no room for improvement);

0 = poorest (no relationship, and/or not trying);

5 = apathetic (okay, but not intentionally trying to improve)

Step Plan your improvement.  Write (on a piece of paper or a word document) some choices you can make and/or some actions you can take to improve any step where you may be lacking. If something is not working, return to step LISTENING, as often as needed and for as long as necessary to proceed to steps dealing with OBSERVING, before moving to VERIFYING, and ENGAGING.  Your chart might look like this:


Step Share your improvement plan with someone who "observes" (lovingly) your needs.  

Start Now!  Use your personal note-taking software, or start taking notes now from one of many free online note-taking websites - several are listed in the "Friends" Menu page.


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