STEP TWO in "Building your life around love."
♡ Loving displays value through OBSERVING needs.
VISUAL REMINDER: Your second finger can remind you to OBSERVE.
L♡ve discerns needs …
♥ Am I discerning what “I am hearing” with what “I am seeing”?
♥ Am I learning about their current and future needs?
♥ Am I discerning what they “really need” from what their “wants” seem to be?
♥ Am I refraining from judging, and am I focusing upon seeing their unique value?
• Applying OBSERVING 24-7 Exercise
Step ❶ Identify someone you want to love better. Consider home, work, school, church, community, and any other setting.
Step ❷ Rate your performance in how well you ❷ OBSERVE. Make notes to support your number.
10 = best (no room for improvement);
0 = poorest (no relationship, and/or not trying);
5 = apathetic (okay, but not intentionally trying to improve)
Step ❸ Plan your improvement. Write (on a piece of paper or a word document) some choices you can make and/or some actions you can take to improve any step where you may be lacking. If something is not working, return to step ❶ LISTENING, as often as needed and for as long as necessary to proceed to steps dealing with ❷ OBSERVING, before moving to ❸ VERIFYING, and ❹ ENGAGING. Your chart might look like this:
Step ❹ Share your improvement plan with someone who "observes" (lovingly) your needs.
Start Now! Use your personal note-taking software, or start taking notes now from one of many free online note-taking websites - several are listed in the "Friends" Menu page.