STEP THREE in "Building your life around love."
♡ Love VERIFIES that our actions reflect unconditional love.
VISUAL REMINDER: Your third finger can remind you to VERIFY.
L♡ve reflects your Creator’s Image in you …
♥ Am I interested in loving them “in the way I was designed to love”?
♥ Do I understand that my way may be manipulative and that the best way may not always be the easiest to do and/or understand?
♥ Do I search the reliable, moral sources (those historically validated outside your personal self) for truth about what love should actually look like?
♥ Have I reached out for strength beyond myself for guidance to understand the best way to engage in loving them?
• Applying VERIFY 24-7 Exercise
Step ❶ Identify someone that you want to love better. Consider home, work, school, church, community, and any other setting.
Step ❷ Rate your performance in how well you ❸ VERIFY. Make notes to support your number.
10 = best (no room for improvement);
0 = poorest (no relationship, and/or not trying);
5 = apathetic (okay, but not intentionally trying to improve)
Step ❸ Plan your improvement. Chart (on paper or use a word processor) some choices you can make and/or some actions you can take to improve any step where you may be lacking. If something is not working, return to step ❶ LISTENING, as often as needed and for as long as necessary to proceed to steps dealing with ❷ OBSERVING, then return to ❸ VERIFYING, before ❹ ENGAGING. Your chart might look like this:
Step ❹ Share your improvement plan with someone who "verifies" your value (loves unconditionally, even if it hurts).
Start Now! Use your personal note-taking software, or start taking notes now from one of many free online note-taking websites - several are listed in the "Friends" Menu page.