Blue Flower

STEP THREE in "Building your life around love."

♡ Love VERIFIES that our actions reflect unconditional love.

VISUAL REMINDER:  Your third finger can remind you to VERIFY.  First finger 3 Verify

 

 

L♡ve reflects your Creator’s Image in you … 

ASK:

♥ Am I interested in loving them “in the way I was designed to love”?

♥ Do I understand that my way may be manipulative and that the best way may not always be the easiest to do and/or understand?

♥ Do I search the reliable, moral sources (those historically validated outside your personal self) for truth about what love should actually look like?

♥ Have I reached out for strength beyond myself for guidance to understand the best way to engage in loving them?

 

 

• Applying VERIFY 24-7 Exercise 

Step ❶ Identify someone that you want to love better. Consider home, work, school, church, community, and any other setting.

Step ❷ Rate your performance in how well you ❸ VERIFY. Make notes to support your number.

10 = best (no room for improvement);

0 = poorest (no relationship, and/or not trying);

5 = apathetic (okay, but not intentionally trying to improve)

Step ❸ Plan your improvement.   Chart (on paper or use a word processor) some choices you can make and/or some actions you can take to improve any step where you may be lacking. If something is not working, return to step ❶ LISTENING, as often as needed and for as long as necessary to proceed to steps dealing with ❷ OBSERVING, then return to ❸ VERIFYING, before ❹ ENGAGING.  Your chart might look like this:

 

 verifyingchart

Step ❹ Share your improvement plan with someone who "verifies" your value (loves unconditionally, even if it hurts).

Start Now!  Use your personal note-taking software, or start taking notes now from one of many free online note-taking websites - several are listed in the "Friends" Menu page.

 

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