STEP ONE in "Building your life around love."
♡ Loving always starts with active LISTENING
VISUAL REMINDER: Your first finger can remind you to LISTEN.
L♡ve displays understanding …
♥ Am I really listening to what they are saying, or am I thinking about what I am going to say?
♥ Do I ask them “What else?”
♥ Do I wait until they are finished?
♥ Do I refrain from “talking about me” instead of them?
• Applying LISTENING 24-7 Exercise
Step ❶ Identify someone that you want to love better. Consider home, work, school, church, community, and/or any other setting.
Step ❷ Rate your performance in how well you ❶ LISTEN. Make notes to support your number.
10 = best (no room for improvement);
0 = poorest (no relationship, and/or not trying);
5 = apathetic (okay, but not intentionally trying to improve)
Step ❸ Plan your improvement. Chart (on a piece of paper or a word document) some choices you can make and/or some actions you can take to improve any step where you may be lacking. If something is not working, return to step ❶ LISTENING, as often as needed and for as long as necessary to proceed to steps dealing with ❷ OBSERVING, ❸ VERIFYING, and ❹ ENGAGING. Your planning chart might look like this:
Step ❹ Share your improvement plan with someone who "listens" to (loves) you.
Start Now! Use your personal note-taking software, or start taking notes now from one of many free online note-taking websites - several are listed in the "Friends" Menu page.