Blue Flower

STEP ONE in "Building your life around love."

Loving always starts with active LISTENING

 VISUAL REMINDER:  Your first finger can remind you to LISTEN. First finger 1 Listen



Lve displays understanding … 


Am I really listening to what they are saying, or am I thinking about what I am going to say?

Do I ask them “What else?”

Do I wait until they are finished?

Do I refrain from “talking about me” instead of them?


Applying LISTENING 24-7 Exercise 

Step Identify someone that you want to love better.  Consider home, work, school, church, community, and/or any other setting.

Step Rate your performance in how well you LISTEN.  Make notes to support your number.

10 = best (no room for improvement);

0 = poorest (no relationship, and/or not trying);

5 = apathetic (okay, but not intentionally trying to improve)

Step Plan your improvement.   Chart (on a piece of paper or a word document) some choices you can make and/or some actions you can take to improve any step where you may be lacking.  If something is not working, return to step LISTENING, as often as needed and for as long as necessary to proceed to steps dealing with OBSERVING, VERIFYING, and ENGAGING.  Your planning chart might look like this:



Step  Share your improvement plan with someone who "listens" to (loves) you.  

Start Now!  Use your personal note-taking software, or start taking notes now from one of many free online note-taking websites - several are listed in the "Friends" Menu page.


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